Why do we fill our surroundings with enemies?

 Why do we fill our surroundings with enemies?

In social life, we often feel dissatisfied with ourselves. The most fatal thing is human relationships. Even within organizations, conflicts tend to escalate if individuals are not part of the same department or team. Especially when the opposing party stands as a firm obstacle to progress, conflicts can erupt. "What's the problem?" "Why do you keep saying it won't work?" "Why don't you try it more often?" However, the other party also has reasons. "That team is always wasting effort on things that won't work." "Is there really nothing else to do?" The biggest problem is that conflicts do not end with blame and criticism. They escalate into emotional battles. While conflicts stemming from work-related issues can be resolved easily, when toxic catalysts intensify emotional conflicts, they create narrow and deep chasms, akin to crevasses.

There are countless words that can inflict severe wounds, such as "You sometimes act like a child," "Please, start using your head," "You can never beat me," "You're not worth your salary," etc. While these phrases may appear in textbooks, depending on the situation, they can create emotional crevasses, dividing the memories of the other person. Suspicion can escalate into certainty. People skilled in human relationships are excellent at resolving misunderstandings. People who enjoy alcohol often have high social skills because they have many opportunities to resolve misunderstandings.

Sometimes, there are people who suddenly get angry. You may feel like you've been struck by lightning for no apparent reason. Internally, you might think, 'Why get so angry over such a trivial matter?' or 'Did something happen to them at home?' However, in most cases, the outburst results from accumulated conflicts. Therefore, if you sense that the other person's attitude or mood is a bit off, it's wise to seize the opportunity to resolve misunderstandings before they explode!

The decisive moment when relationships turn into enmity is when you feel betrayed by someone you trusted and were close to. Personally, Chairman Lee Geum-ryong once said something like this, "People hate betrayal the most. However, 98% of those who betray others do not admit that they betrayed."

I confess that I often have many conflicts in my human relationships. I easily get hurt and feel pain. Therefore, I envy those who drink well and have high social skills even more.

One remedy I've learned for alleviating pain is the habit of 'putting oneself in the other's shoes' and trying to understand their perspective. I've also learned that it's less draining to set boundaries in relationships that repeatedly trigger conflicts.

However, finally, I ask myself this question as well. 'Why do I foolishly try to fill my surroundings with enemies?'