Living wonderfully leads to loving wonderfully

 Living wonderfully leads to loving wonderfully.

With the arrival of a sunny spring, wedding invitations are in the air. One worrying trend is that the age of marriage has increased significantly. While I got married at 28, nowadays it seems to be trending towards the early to mid-30s. Many people are even giving up on marriage altogether, with economics being a major factor. It's a serious issue not just individually, but also on a national scale.

For young people eagerly awaiting their "fiancé," the most important concern might be how to capture someone's heart. Methods like push and pull, commonly known as "playing hard to get," and other psychological techniques are often touted in popular psychology books.

However, Professor Mary Luti of Harvard University, in her class on "Harvard Love Studies," says these techniques are useless. She likens falling in love to slipping on a banana peel - the reasons for falling in love can be quite absurd. In that sense, playing hard to get and push-pull tactics often lead to missing out on genuinely good people. These tactics stem from a lack of confidence and can ultimately lead to even greater disappointment for the other person over time. She advises to stay true to emotions.

Is there such a thing as a perfect leading man in dramas? Professor Luti says, "If you're looking for a man to sleep with among the men in the subway car, you might find twenty... but you might not find a man you'd want to sleep with after six months." The fact that the most common attitude shown by male protagonists in romance is hesitation and weakness is no coincidence. Love isn't like fruit; it doesn't rot even when bruised, but rather matures. Don't hesitate, she advises, as love matures over time.

Charm is often ambiguous. While you can give various explanations for why you like someone, there's often an unspoken 'it' factor. 'It' is precisely what you believe you lack. So, love becomes a perfect experience when shared with someone who has what you lack. To meet a wonderful person, you must first become one...

We can see wonderful people around us. Their common trait is that they dream, pursue those dreams passionately, and live passionately. Let's strive to become wonderful people first! Have you seen drama protagonists displaying their romantic skills?